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There were about 70 scientists working on a very hectic project. All of them were really frustrated due to the pressure of work and the demands of their boss, but everyone was loyal to him and did not think of quitting the job.

One day, one scientist came to his boss and told him, "Sir, I have promised to my children that I will take them to the exhibition going on in our township. So I want to leave the office at 5 30 pm." His boss replied, "OK, You're permitted to leave the office early today".

The Scientist started working. He continued his work after lunch. As usual he got involved to such an extent that he looked at his watch when he felt he was close to completion. The time was 8.30 PM. suddenly he remembered of the promise he had given to his children. He looked for his boss, He was not there. Having told him in the morning itself, he closed everything and left for home. Deep within himself, he was feeling guilty for having disappointed his children.

He reached home. Children were not there. His wife alone was sitting in the hall and reading magazines. The situation was explosive; any talk would boomerang on him. His wife asked him "Would you like to have coffee or shall I straight away serve dinner if you are hungry." The man replied "If you would like to have coffee, I too will have; but, what about Children?" Wife replied "You don't know? Your manager came here at 5.15 PM and has taken the children to the exhibition".

What had really happened was ......: The boss who granted him permission was observing him working seriously at 5.00 PM. He thought to himself, this person will not leave the work, but if he has promised his children they should enjoy the visit to exhibition. So he took the lead in taking them to exhibition the boss does not have to do it every time. But once it is done, loyalty is established. That is why all the scientists at Thumba continued to work under their boss even though the stress was tremendous.

By the way, can you hazard a guess as to who the boss was..?

He was none other than

Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam,

Former-President of India..

WRITTEN BY AN INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER...

A Bitter Reality

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom apt.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of fast food at McDonald's and pizzas and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India... But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA...

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India... My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA... I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India... I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom APT in a well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the APT is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, Had a house to his name and I too have the same, nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?' I am still searching for an answer...!!!

START THINKING

IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???

LIFE IS BEYOND THIS...DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ...

START LIVING IT ...

LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE ...

Father : "I want you to marry a girl of my choice"
Son : "I will choose my own bride!"
Father : "But the girl is Bill Gate's daughter."
Son : "Well, in that case...OK"

Next - Father approaches Bill Gates.
Father : "I have a husband for your daughter."
Bill Gates : "But my daughter is too young to marry!"
Father : "But this young man is a vice-president of the World Bank."
Bill Gates : "Ah, in that case...OK"

Finally Father goes to see the president of the World Bank.
Father : "I have a young man to be recommended as a vice-president. "
President : "But I already have more vice- presidents than I need!"
Father : "But this young man is Bill Gate's son-in-law."
President : "Ah, in that case...OK"

This is how business is done!!
Moral: Even If you have nothing,You can get Anything. But your attitude should be positive...

One Night 4 college students were playing till late night and could not study for the test which was scheduled for the next day.

In the morning they thought of a plan. They made themselves look as
dirty with grease and dirt. They then went up to the Dean and said that they had gone out to a wedding last night and on their return the tire of their car burst and they had to push the car all the way back and that they were in no condition to appear for the test.

So the Dean said they could have the re-test after 3 days. They thanked him and said they would be ready by that time.

On the third day they appeared before the Dean. The Dean said that as this was a Special Condition Test, all four were required to sit in separate classrooms for the test. They all agreed as they had prepared well in the last 3 days.

The Test consisted of 2 questions with a total of 100 Marks.

See Below for the question Paper

Q.1. Name of the car? ......... .......... ......... (2 MARKS)

Q.2. which tire burst? ......... .......... ......... (98 MARKS)

a) Front Left b) Front Right c) Back Left d) Back Right



True story from IIT Bombay ....Batch 1992...

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.''

"But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?", asked the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.

I was walking around in a Big Bazaar store making shopping, when I saw a Cashier talking to a boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years old.

The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have enough money to buy this doll. Then the little boy turned to me and asked: ''Aunty, are you sure I don't have enough money?''
I counted his cash and replied: ''You know that you don't have enough money to buy the doll, my dear.'' The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand.
Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to. 'It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much I wanted to Gift her for her BIRTHDAY.

I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can give it to my sister when she goes there.' His eyes were so sad while saying this. 'My Sister has gone to be with God. Daddy says that mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister.''

My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and said: 'I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I come back from the mall.' Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing. He then told me 'I want mommy to take my picture with her so my sister won't forget me.' 'I love my mommy and I wish she doesn't have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister.' Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly.

I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?''
'OK' he said, 'I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money.

The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!'
Then he looked at me and added, 'I asked last night before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!'' 'I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose. My mommy loves white roses.'

I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started.

I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind. Then I remembered a local news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl. The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state.
The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to recover from the coma. Was this the family of the little boy?

Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young woman had passed away.. I couldn't stop myself as I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial. She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest. I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever.

The love that the little boy had for his mother and his sister is still, to this day, hard to imagine. And in a fraction of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.

Please DO NOT DRINK & DRIVE.
Now you have 2 choices:
1) Forward this message, or
2) Ignore it as if it never touched your heart.

An old man lived alone in Idaho. He wanted to spade his potato garden, but it was very hard work. His only son, Bubba, who used to help him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament.

Dear Bubba:
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won't be able to plant my potato garden this year. I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for me.

Love, Dad

A few days later, he received a letter from his son.

Dear Dad:
For heaven's sake, Dad, don't dig up that garden. That's where I buried the BODIES.Love, Bubba

At 4 a.m. the next morning, FBI agents and local Police showed up and dug up the entire area without finding any bodies. They apologized to the old man and left.
That same day, the old man received another letter from his son.
Dear Dad:
Go ahead and plant the potatoes now. It's the best I could do under the circumstances.Love, Bubba

A-Z of a Successful Relationship!

A = ADJUSTMENTS. Successful relationship is all about adjustment and compromise - a spirit of give and take. Both partners have to make adjustments. Don´t try to make the other over in the likeness of your image. Speaks Sheetal, married for seven months: "I made the mistake of trying to change Rishi. One day he turned on me and said, "You knew who I was and what I was before we got married. That is whom you fell in love with " I was instantly cured of my reformatory habit!"

B = BLAME GAME. It is very easy to say: "It’s your fault." It’s hard to look at ourselves and ask: "What’s my part in creating the difficulties between us?" The problem with blaming is that it never solves anything and it nearly always triggers a negative reaction. When each of us blames the other, we deny our partner the opportunity to think seriously about our words and to respond in a thoughtful manner. So what’s the antidote to blaming? The answer is simple: Take responsibility for yourself. Its hard to give up that feeling of being right but try looking hard at what your part is in creating the conflict.

C = COMMUNICATION. Good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. Try and communicate rationally, sensibly and be sensitive to your partner’s point of view. You have to be aware about the other person’s feelings and emotions, if you want to build a good channel of communication. Just your awareness of the other person’s feelings and state of mind goes a long way in establishing that much needed telepathy.

D = DESIRE. Ultimately, that’s what fuels a relationship. Think of sex as a slow, sensuous dance. Explore your partner’s entire body. Hold him or her like you never want to let them go. This will help you feel connected with your partner and genuinely loved.

E = EMOTIONAL IDENTIFICATION. You have to strike the correct rapport for any relationship to succeed. You could be married for years, but if you don’t share that special connection, your relationship could feel vacuous. So make sure to share those special moments with each other. If you give your full attention when he or she talks to you, it becomes one of those romantic gestures. And you know how you re always trying to be "more intimate"? If you listen to your partner more, he or she’ll think you are being more intimate. All you have to do is pay attention; It’s that simple.

F = FORGIVE AND FORGET. Has your partner done something that you feel you just cannot forgive him or her for? If the relationship is worth salvaging, try to forgive and forget. Perhaps this is a solitary mistake your partner has made in the heat of the moment. Sometimes the understanding between couples after an affair helps them resolve old forgotten issues and start anew. Yet, if you feel, that this is an incident that will happen again and again, then you should consider ending the relationship a very real option.

G = GIVE. 100% of yourself No relationship can be successful without the unique ability to give something of you to it. The more you give to a relationship, the stronger it becomes and the more you get back from it.

H = HONESTY. You cannot build a relationship on the basis of deceit! You have to build trust in a relationship. That trust comes only when you both are completely honest with yourselves. Build your relationship on a foundation of integrity and honesty. Be honest with yourself and your partner. The truth might hurt but in the long run, respecting your partner´s opinions for being honest and truthful will lead to a greater degree of closeness. Ask yourself how genuine you are with your partner; how willing you are to be open and vulnerable, to reveal yourself and all that really matters to you. Reveal the things that you´ve never revealed to anybody else and glow in the comfort of "It´s ok". Revealing yourself is what unlocks your love.

I = INDEPENDENCE. Till you both don´t become your own people, you will have nothing left to attract the other with. Closeness only comes when you have done other things with your life, apart from your relationship. If you both are going to cling together, then monotony sets in. So keep some space apart form each other too.

J = JEALOUSY. Does the green-eyed monster rear its ugly head in your direction often? It happens to the best of couples. Jealousy is an emotion that is capable of destroying every ounce of intelligence in a person´s mind - not to mention the destruction it can wreak upon a relationship. Jealousy is a negative emotion. It may be understandable in the early stages of a relationship when feelings of insecurity run deep. It may even be flattering at times, but if it spirals out of control it can get pretty ugly. Jealousy is not an emotion based on love, it is an emotion that´s triggered more by a fear of not being loved. It´s time you asked yourself what you´re really afraid of and why.

K = KARMA. Whatever you do tends to come right back to you. Just believe in the circle of life, and you will never go wrong.

L = LAUGHTER. It´s about sharing and having a secret joke which you both can always laugh about. Laughter is the way to unlock the hidden keys to each other´s subconscious. It´s about laughing off the bad times and treasuring happy memories.

M = MEANNESS. Sometimes we go into a quiet place and indulge in all those mean thoughts that can be hurtful to the people we love and to ourselves. So abandon all those petty and irrelevant thoughts, because the only person they will end up hurting is you.

N = NEVER SAY. "NEVER AGAIN" Remember all those times when you make up in your mind that you are never going to put up with that certain something that irritates you about your partner? Relax. Never is a very long time for percolating over anything.

O = AN OPEN MIND. When you want to keep a relationship going, then you have to accept many individual characteristics of your partner you may not necessarily like. If you keep an open mind about these qualities, then you will certainly benefit. It´s better to keep resentment about your partner´s few habits out of the way.

P = PATIENCE. Patience is an integral virtue in any successful relationship.

Q = QUALITY TIME. You need to carve out space and time for just the two of you. Do not begin to take each other for granted or crowd your life with other activities and social commitments. For the bond to remain special, spend quality time with each other.

R = RESPECT. Respect is not included in your marriage vows, yet it is central to a lasting, satisfying relationship. You have to appreciate the separateness of your partner his or her unique characteristics. This will pull you closer together.

S = SPACE. How often have we heard of that phrase, "I need space?" Everyone needs space to grow and evolve. Even in a marriage, you need to have space to develop individually. A relationship can become claustrophobic and you can lose your individuality, unless you consciously give your partner space. And, equally important, make some carve out space for yourself.

T = TRYING TIMES. This is the true test of any relationship. Those who stick together in those times - when the bills might be unpaid or your partner might be temporarily unemployed - are the one´s who have achieved the equation of perfect understanding and caring. It´s these times that show us our own mettle and that of those we care for.

U = UNDERSTANDING. If you can understand the insecurities of people when they are going through a bad phase, and accept them for who they are without trying to change them, then you´ve got it made.

V = VACATION. It´s those secret moments you spend with the people you love away from the hustle and bustle of the world. Take a little vacation together, it´ll be a fond memory for the rest of your lives.

W = WIDENING SPACES. It may be a simple drifting apart or just a difference of opinion but it´s so easy to let go and let the gap between two people widen. A few missed calls, words left unsaid a few too many times and before you know it, your relationship has yawning chasms it never did. Keep those channels of communication open.

X = XTREME MEASURES. We all take extreme measures to help our own relationships with people and remove the deadwood from their and our lives. These are the firm steps we have to take to protect the people we love, sometimes from themselves.

Y = YELLING. Every relationship can´t always be hunky dory, so if you need to scream at each other, then go for it. All relationships pick up a certain amount of dead weight sometimes, so if you need to hurl angry words at each other, then do so. Just remember, not to say anything hurtful because this is about solving issues, not creating new ones.

Z = ZEROING IN ON A PROBLEM. You know that the most effective way to iron out trouble spots in any relationship is admitting that they exist in the first place. So before you start generalizing about the impassive state of a relationship, zero in on the one thing that is really troubling you.

Golf is not a game of great shots. Its a game of the least misses. The people who win make the least mistakes

An incident took place in Pune - a young girl was attacked by a man posing as a plain-clothes officer; he asked her to come to the police station when she & her male friend did not have a driver's license to show. He sent the boy off to get his license and asked the girl to accompany him to the police station. Took her instead to an isolated area where the horrendous crime was committed.

The law [which most of us are not aware of] clearly states that between 6 pm and 6 am, a woman has the right to REFUSE to go to the Police Station, even if an arrest warrant has been issued against her. It is a procedural issue that a woman can not be arrested between 6pm and 6am, ONLY if she is arrested by a woman officer & taken to an ALL WOMEN police station. Moreover, if a male officer arrests her, it has to be proven that a woman officer was on duty at the time of arrest.

1. Regular naps prevent old age... Especially if you take them while driving.
2. Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee.
3. Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband!
4. They said we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried- but they wanted cash.
5. A child's greatest period of growth is the month after you've purchased new school uniforms.
6. Don't feel bad. A lot of people have no talent.
7. Don't marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without... But whatever you do, you'll regret it later.
8. You can't buy love. . But you pay heavily for it.
9. True friends stab you in the front.
10. Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate you for hurting me.
11. Bad officials are elected by good citizens who do not vote.
12. Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired.
13. My wife and I always compromise. I admit I'm wrong and she agrees with me.
14. Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others.
15. Ladies first. Pretty ladies sooner.
16. It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.
17. They call our language the mother tongue because the father seldom gets to speak.
18. Saving is the best thing. Especially when your parents have done it for you.
19. Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something.
20. Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

The road to success is always under construction.
Diplomacy is the art of letting someone else get your way.
Life is not no much a matter of position as of disposition.
The best vitamin for making friends is B-1.
If you don't care where you're going any road will get you there.
A pint of example is worth a gallon of advice.
He who throws mud loses ground.
Nobody raises his own reputation by lowering others.
Nothing ruins the truth like stretching it.
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
Ideas won't work unless you do.
The future is purchased by the present.
One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.
Lost time is never found again.
A hard thing about business is minding your own.
Triumph is just "umph" added to try.
Caution is not cowardly, Carelessness is not courage.
He who forgives ends the quarrel.
Children need more models than critics.
Frogs have it easy; they can eat what bugs them.
The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime.
If the going gets easy you may be going downhill.
Dieters - People that is thick and tired of it.
Jumping to conclusions can be bad exercise.
The best labor saving device is doing it tomorrow.
A turtle makes progress when it sticks its neck out.
Failure is the path of least persistence.
Hard work is the yeast that raises the dough.
Patience is counting down without blasting off.
Have a backbone not a wishbone.
Some folks won't look up until they are flat on their backs.
If you want your dreams to come true, don't oversleep.

"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, Friends and spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.

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SPREAD THE MESSAGE OF PEACE...

Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits

Believe in yourself

Consider things from every angle

Don't give up and don't give in

Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come

Family and friends are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches

Give more than you planned to

Hang on to your dreams

Ignore those who try to discourage you

Just do it

Keep trying to matter how hard it seems, it will get easier

Love yourself first and most

Make it happen

Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal

Open your eyes and see things as they really are

Practice makes perfect

Quitters never win and winners never quit

Read, study and learn about everything important in your life

Stop procrastinating

Take control of your own destiny

Understand yourself in order to better understand others

Visualize it

Want it more than anything

Xcellerate your efforts

You are unique of all God's creations, nothing can replace you

Zero in on your target and go for it!

Celebration means.....
A winter evening
Four friends.
One barsaat.
Four glasses of chai.

Celebration means.....
Hundred bucks of petrol.
A rusty old bike.
And an open road.

Celebration means.....
Maggi noodles.
A hostel room.
4.25a.m

Celebration means.....
3 old friends.
3 separate cities.
3 coffee mugs.
1 internet messenger.

Celebration means.....
Rain on a hot tin roof.
Pakoras deep-frying.
Neighbours dropping in.
A party.

Celebration means.....
You and mom.
A summer night.
A bottle of coconut oil.
A head massage.
Gossiping about absent family members.

you can spend
Hundreds on birthdays,
Thousands on festivals,
Lakhs on weddings

but to celebrate
all you have to do is spend your Time with
your loved ones.
Keep in touch with your loved ones......