In any relationship, there are good and bad days, but when do you know that it's time to break up? The easy answer is when the bad days outweigh the good, but it's more complicated than that. Knowing what the signs of a rocky relationship are can help both of you avoid wasting time. If you aren't getting what you want or need from the other person, it's time to move on and find someone who will make you happy. Here are seven signs that will clue you in on knowing when it's time to split.
1) You aren't spending time together:
At the beginning of your relationship, you couldn't stop contacting the other person, whether you were going out on a date, emailing or just calling to say hello. If one or both of you aren't interested in making an effort to contact the other person and spend time together, then what's the point of keeping the relationship intact? The basis of any healthy relationship is communication. If you aren't happy being together, you are better off finding a partner who you do want to talk to and be with.
2) You don't discuss your future:
The reason most people are in a relationship is to see if there is a future with the other person. In a strong relationship, it's normal to discuss your plans for events that are down the road, such as whether you both want children, where you would like to settle down and have a home together, or even where you'll be spending the upcoming holidays. If you aren't discussing together these types of subjects-or any that have to do with having a future together-it's a major red flag.
3) There is a lack of effort:
When your relationship was going well, you both would make plans for a date night, a picnic together or a romantic getaway. If either of you can't be bothered to even arrange a date, then perhaps the passion has died and it's time to find someone who does want to spend time with you and will expend the energy to do it.
4) You are constantly fighting:
Most partners will have a disagreement now and then, but we all know there's a difference between rare bickering and being constantly at war. It's especially harmful if you go for each other's weak spots-like weight, family or looks. Even if you both tend to make up quickly and forgive each other, it doesn't make it right or healthy to fight like that.
5) You start comparing your partner to other people:
If other people appeal to you more than your own boyfriend or girlfriend, then it's time to move on before you start to resent being in a relationship at all. If you're actually comparing traits of other people to those that your partner can't change-like looks, personality, interests, humor or intelligence-then perhaps you already see yourself with someone else.
6) His or her body language is standoffish:
If your significant other can't look you in the eye when he or she is talking to you, then perhaps there's something to hide. Nonverbal communication can be just as important as what you actually say to each other. If your partner is constantly leaning away from you or has stopped hugging you or holding hands, it isn't a good sign. You want to feel a connection with your significant other.
7) One or both of you are micromanaging:
People tend to micromanage when they aren't secure in the relationship or when trust has been broken. If one person in the relationship is always telling the other what, how and when to do something, it begins to sound condescending. You aren't each other's parents, so if the dynamics in the relationship have changed to where one of you is assuming that role, then it's time to move on.
